Why Do So Many Women Fake Orgasms—and What Can We Do About It?

She moaned. He grinned. She went silent.

It is a script far too many women know by heart. The truth is, many women fake orgasms. Not because they want to, but because they feel like they have to. From protecting a partner’s ego, to avoiding uncomfortable conversations, to simply not knowing how to ask for more, faking it has become a normalized part of intimacy. But it should not be.

Why Women Fake It

Studies show that a large percentage of women have admitted to faking orgasms at some point. The reasons vary—pressure to perform, a desire to “get it over with,” or fear of being seen as difficult. At its core, faking often stems from prioritizing someone else’s comfort over your own.

The Cultural Shame Spiral

Generations of conditioning have taught women that their pleasure is secondary. The cultural script often says “his satisfaction matters most.” Women are left without the tools or language to communicate what they need. This shame spiral silences desire and teaches women to pretend, rather than demand the fullness of their experience.

What To Do Instead

The first step is awareness. Recognize when you are silencing yourself and ask why. Real intimacy begins with honesty—honesty with your partner, but most importantly, honesty with yourself. From there, small shifts in communication can spark huge change. Phrases like, “I want to slow down,” or “I like it when you…” create space for real pleasure to grow.

How To Claim Your Real Pleasure

Claiming your orgasm is an act of self-love. It is also an act of power. That might mean exploring on your own, experimenting with sensual wellness products, or inviting your partner into a new conversation about desire. Femme Fresa Fatale, our natural libido enhancer, was designed to support that journey. It is not about fixing you. It is about awakening you to what is already within.

Your “yes” deserves to be real. Your body deserves more than silence. And your pleasure deserves to be prioritized—not performed.

Stop faking it. Start owning it.

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